Nothing is set in stone, but we are planning for a Fall Wedding in 2011. Hopefully around the first weekend of October. The place will be Curwood Castle in Owosso, Michigan.
All of you in Oklahoma have that long to save some money, charter a plane, a bus, get the group discount, whatever you got to do to get here !!! LOL
This is how we have planned, so far. Dean (the king, matt dad) will walk out with the sword, followed by the bagpipes playing Scotland the Brave. Matt (soon to be king) will come out next. Once he gets up to his dad he will kneel as the couples in the wedding will start to line up. The first ones in the line will carry the Scotland flag for the boys side and the flag of Ireland for the girls side.
My cousin Chrissy and her husband Kevin will be last in line. Chrissy will be walking Casey, and Kevin will walk Cain. For those that don’t know, those are my Boxer dogs. Well they are ours now. The dogs are going to have sashes made of Matt's family tartan (same as kilts) as a symbol of being brought into his family (since they were mine to start with).
(The boys will all be in kilts, the girls will have Renaissance style dresses. It is a traditional Celtic wedding after all.)
Once the girls and boys are all in place, Matt will rise, and his dad will basically "knight" him (for lack of a better term) and he will then take his place at the alter. This will then make him King
The person who is going to marry us is our pastor at our church. He is about the same age as us and SUPER excited to get to wear a kilt. LOL
Ok, once the boys are girls are all lined up, the bags will stop playing and switch to Irish Eyes are Smiling. Deb (Matt’s step mom) will then walk in front (she’s Irish so that worked out well) sort of paving the way for me. Behind her will be Madison (throwing shamrocks of course, and she is Matt's Princess) and then behind her, will be me.
I think Matt is having his dad make some sort of a speech.
Wedding takes place.
One tradition we are thinking of doing is the tying of the wrists, it’s a Celtic thing.
We are thinking about having the reception at Albee Township all, since that is where all my family things seem to end up, and its easy for everyone to get to since most of them all live around these parts.
There will be a dinner reception with a DJ, then, an after party for adults only after about 8, with drinking and Matt wants an Irish Punk Band...This of course is all subject to change.
So that's about all we have going now....
I find it is easy to write about things (I mean, I am a writer after all) then it is for me to pick up the phone and call you all individually. As most of you know, I am not a huge fan of talking on the phone anyway. Text me all day long, that’s fine. But I have never been very good about picking up the phone and calling someone. I think it is from all those years of having to answer the phone at work. It tends to take the fun out of it.
Besides, I am not going to pass up a good opportunity to write about something
As I mentioned in the last blog, The Engagement, Matt and I had picked out rings together. So I knew at some point, I was going to get a ring. Every day I had asked him if they had come yet, and “no” was the answer I had always gotten. Last Friday night Matt took Madison over to his moms to spend the night. I was in bed, watching TV when he came home. He came over and kneeled beside me, and just sort of rested there for a minute. I honestly thought nothing of it, until my little light bulb went off. He started to speak at the exact moment I said “You got the rings!” *doh* that pretty much killed the moment. *sigh* So, he asked me to marry him. I of course said “YES!”
Saturday night after Matt came home from Airsoft and his mom dropped Madison off, he took my ring and showed it to Madison. She was all excited (they were sitting on the bed with me) and they both turned around, her face was all smiles and her eyes were huge, as they both said “will you marry us?” and she threw herself on me for the biggest hug ever. I said “oh if I have to” she started to laugh and told me I did. I gave her and Matt a hug and said I would spend the rest of my life with them. It was so cute.
I did not get some big fancy proposal, no fireworks, no candles, no romantic dinner, no party, nothing of that sort. But when I did get was a proposal that was special to us all.
Yes, it is true. I am getting married.
I mentioned a week or so ago that I had some news to tell you soon….we had picked out our rings that day. So, I knew ..but I also knew he wanted to actually propose. Me, the one who does not like surprised begged that he not do it while we were out in public someplace. I had hoped he would listen. That was all I needed was to have a panic attack while my boyfriend proposed to me.
As some of you may know, Matt and I are not without problems. Many couples face hiccups in their relationships, and it seems Matt and I had to face all of ours at once. There were more times than I care to remember that I began to pack my stuff and make arrangement to move out. But something always held me back. I really started to search inside myself, and think about all of the reasons why I was staying, as well as why it was I wanted to leave.
To often, in the past, I have ran away. During the worst of it all, night after night of countless fighting and tears, that ex BF that you all so love to hate (he actually ended up being one of my best friends here) decided that enough was enough and tried to get me to leave Matt and come back to him. And, when things hit rock bottom, there was a moment (oh, so brief moment) where I felt Matt and I were not going to work out and perhaps the ex deserved a second chance. I had seen him grow so much in the last year and maybe, it was better for a us both.
While I started to soul search, I remembered a book we had gotten for Christmas from his Dad and his wife Deb. It was called The Love Dare. A 40 day book for couples. Although it took us a month to actually sit down and do it, I have to say it truly has been a relationship saver. Shortly after we started the book I had found the movie Fireproof, which the book was based off of. I watched it, and it changed my life. When Matt got home that day, I made him watch it. It was then he decided that HE was the one that needed to change, and he is now doing the book on his own.
For too long I felt that I was doing everything for him and getting nothing in return. When I moved in I instantly became a mother, a maid, a chef, and a drycleaner. I did this while Matt slept in late and sat around on the computer, watched TV or played video games. It was not until this book did he start to get serious about finding a job, being productive and helpful, as well as finding the strength within himself to realize that losing a job is not the end of the world, nor is it a reflection of your true self. What is? It is how you handle yourself when you are faced with these life challenges.
We are now confident that our relationship has finally broke free from the mean and hurtful sayings, broke free from the lack of communication and compromise. We are now confident we have the tools necessary to be able to move forward, handle all of life’s obstacles, and spend the rest of our life together.
The road has been hard. I wanted to give up. I had been tempted by the fruit of another, and for the first time in my life, I resisted.
It was then I knew, I was truly in love with this man and no one or nothing else mattered.
He is still working on the book, and I find myself journaling again. The realization is, life is not always easy. It has been a long road for me, but finally, I am seeing some peace with it. Matt is kind, he is loving, and he is extremely caring. Not only that, but I get a Madison out of the whole deal. Seeing her smile when I teach her how to cook things, well, there is nothing more beautiful that that. We may only be a weekend family, but they are my family, and I plan to love them for the rest of my life.
So, there you have it. How we went from almost breaking up and moving out, to finding our way back to why we fell in love in the first place.
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